Got a Spouse that Doesn’t Want to Prepare?
At The Ready Store we field a wide variety of questions and one that has seemed to pop up more and more lately as preparedness enters into the minds or more and more people is: How do I prepare when my spouse thinks it isn’t worthwhile?
While everyone’s situation is unique and there is no one answer for this question here is what we have seen work to get everyone on board with emergency preparedness.
1. Count up all of the insurance fees you currently pay as a family (auto, home, renters, health, property, life, pet, recreational vehicle, and so on) for a year’s duration. Show the spouse the number and ask them if any of these forms of insurance will give your family life-sustaining nourishment, warmth, and shelter if a job loss or disaster were to occur.
2. Talk about inflation and the shelf life of these long term food products. Most long term food products last 10-30 years, even if you don’t use them in the next 3 decades, when you finally open them up to consume the product you will almost surely be saving money at that time of use.
For example a McDonald’s Hamburger has increased almost 60% in the last 30 years, a gallon of milk was about $1.50 30 years ago and now it runs as much as $4.00 a gallon in certain parts of the country. Kellog’s Corn Flakes were 99 cents for 19 ounces of cereal in 1980 but now it is well north of $3.00 for only 12 ounces. If you need some ammo check out this site to look up different product costs increasing over time and this tool can be useful when the Bureau of Labor Statistics‘ site is working (wasn’t at the time of writing this).
3. Explain how a lot of these items can be used for multiple purposes. For example, the Volcano Stove I bought the other day was made possible by my various angles I used on my wife like: “Honey we can use it for roasting marshmallows with the kids in the backyard… we can take it camping and I can use it tailgating when football season comes this Fall… and of course if we ever need it for a disaster it will be there for us too.” If they scoff at the idea of preparing for disasters don’t mention that it can solve that need or just bring it up last in a trailing off volume after you have already energetically highlighted the reasons that they would like
There are other avenues we have heard over the years that we wouldn’t endorse publicly (we don’t want to responsible for breaking up a relationship!) but we have heard others do some somewhat questionable means like threatening a spouse that they will buy something exorbitant or purposely avoid paying the gas, electricity, and water bills and see how they liked roughing it when they are cut. One customer told us how she went around her husband and just bought a food supply because “it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission.”
Again, everyone’s situation is going to be different so there is no one way to go about helping someone understand the importance of emergency preparedness. If you find yourself in a situation where your spouse does not want to prepare for the unknown think long and hard about the best way to help your spouse see the great blessing it is to be prepared for whatever the future throws at you.
Of course this is a blog and we want you to hear what your thoughts are, maybe what you have done with this situation personally. So like always leave a comment below!Updated May 13, 2011